Welcome to better, Safer, more Loving relationships
Congratulations
on taking that
vital first step towards safe, secure relationships.
2026 marks the 4th annual Coming Home to Love Retreat Happening On April 9th-15th, 2026
📍 Pahoa, The Big Island of Hawaii (At an incredible Retreat Center On the South East Shore of the Island)
Coming Home to Love is a holistic and transformative 7-Day retreat expertly curated specifically for individuals who are ready to heal their deepest relational wounds and build the kind of love that truly lasts.
Held at a beautiful, tropical retreat center on the Big Island of Hawaii!
This is a small, personal, and intimate retreat with Limited spots available.
🔥 Super Early bird pricing ends December 15th, 2025.
Are you ready to change your life? Remember...
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . .”
- Esther Perel
Over the course of 7 immersive, life-changing days, you’ll be guided through a carefully guided journey of:
💔 Uncover and heal your core wounds
Bring awareness and compassion to the roots of your patterns so lasting transformation can begin.
🔥 Transform anxiety, avoidance, and self-doubt into confidence and clarity
Learn how to meet old reactions with grounded power and self-trust.
🌿 Embody the secure love you’ve always longed for — starting with yourself
Integrate what you learn into your body, your voice, and your daily life.
💞 Create new relationship blueprints —whether single, dating, or partnered
Build connections rooted in safety, honesty, and mutual care.
🪶 Experience and Cultivate deep safety —
Discover how to regulate your nervous system, anchor in presence, and bring that steadiness into every interaction.
👣 Rewrite your story and walk forward with self-trust, resilience, and real-world tools
Carry home a clear roadmap for continued growth and authentic connection.
This isn’t just another workshop. It’s an embodied journey to the love you want.
And it has the power to change everything.
You’ll Walk Away With:
Unshakeable Confidence
At this retreat, you’ll reconnect with the core of yourself—the version of you that knows what you need, trusts your worth, and no longer abandons yourself to keep the peace or earn love. Through experiential practices, guided self-inquiry, and deeply embodied relational work, you’ll begin to stand rooted in your truth. That means no more second-guessing yourself, shrinking to be accepted, or spiraling when someone pulls away. Instead, you’ll learn how to stay grounded in your body, speak your truth with clarity and care, and trust that the right relationships will meet you—not because you perform, but because you’re showing up as the real you. This is confidence that doesn’t fade when things get hard—it deepens. It’s the kind of confidence that transforms not just your love life, but your whole life.
Boundaries that Build Connection, Not Distance.
So many of us were taught that setting boundaries means pushing people away—or that being loving means saying yes when we actually mean no. But real intimacy requires honesty. At this retreat, you’ll learn how to identify your true limits, express them with both courage and compassion, and trust that they don’t have to cost you connection—in fact, they deepen it. You’ll practice how to hold your ground without closing your heart, how to speak up without attacking or withdrawing, and how to stay present when things get uncomfortable. These are the kinds of boundaries that don’t just protect your peace—they invite others into a relationship built on clarity, safety, and mutual respect. You’ll leave knowing how to advocate for yourself in a way that strengthens your connections instead of straining them.
Real Tools and Practices
Transformation doesn’t stick without integration. That’s why this retreat goes beyond insight—it gives you embodied tools you can actually use when things get hard. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system in moments of overwhelm, speak truth during conflict without creating rupture, and bridge the space between you and someone you care about—even when tension is high. Through experiential exercises, real-time coaching, and guided partner work, you’ll practice staying present in moments where you’d usually shut down, lash out, or abandon yourself. These aren’t surface-level tools—they’re simple, powerful practices designed to anchor you in safety, clarity, and connection. You’ll leave not just knowing what to do differently, but how to do it—so that your relationships feel more nourishing, more honest, and more resilient.
Deep Self-Love that Doesn’t Require Validation to Stay Strong
At its core, this retreat is about helping you remember who you are beneath the masks, patterns, and old wounds. Through guided practices and powerful group work, you’ll learn how to reconnect with the parts of you that have been ignored, rejected, or abandoned—not by others, but by you. You’ll begin to see yourself clearly, hold yourself gently, and reclaim the inner safety that comes from being on your own side. This isn’t the kind of self-love that depends on affirmations or approval—it’s the kind that lives in your bones. The kind that holds steady when someone doesn’t understand you, when a relationship ends, or when life feels uncertain. You’ll leave with a deep, embodied sense that you are lovable exactly as you are—not when you’re perfect, not when others choose you—but always.
A Clear Vision of the Safety and Love you Want — AND a Map to Get There
Most of us know what we don’t want in relationships, but struggle to articulate—and embody—what we do. At this retreat, you’ll take the time and space to get radically honest about the kind of love, connection, and partnership your heart is truly craving. Not just from a fantasy or fear-based place, but from your deepest truth. Through guided visioning, group reflection, and practical exercises, you’ll uncover your core relational values, clarify your attachment patterns, and learn what actually makes love feel secure, inspiring, and sustainable for you. Then, you’ll begin crafting the personal roadmap—emotionally, somatically, and behaviorally—that can get you there. No more guessing, chasing, or settling. You’ll leave this retreat with a clearer picture of what you’re calling in and concrete next steps for how to create it, starting from the inside out.
Community
Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. At Coming Home to Love, you’ll be held in a rare kind of space—one where everyone is committed to deep growth, honest reflection, and relational transformation. You’ll be surrounded by people who have been through heartbreak, confusion, and self-doubt… and are still choosing to show up for real love. This isn’t just a retreat—it’s a village. A place where your emotions are welcome, your story is honored, and your breakthroughs are celebrated. Many participants leave with new friendships, practice partners, and even lifelong allies for the road ahead. And, this year, the Coming Home to Love Team is launching an Online Community called The Secure Network that will provide extra support and guidance long after the retreat ends. You can't lose!
This is for you if...
You’re ready to stop attracting unavailable partners, losing yourself in love, or shutting down to protect your heart. You're finally ready to feel safe in your body and in your close connections with others. You’re done being the one who always does the work alone—and ready to start feeling safe in connection, building intimacy without fear of abandonment, and truly believing you are worthy of lasting, secure love.
At Coming Home to Love, you’ll be guided through a carefully curated curriculum that weaves together some of the most effective healing modalities available today. You’ll learn and practice tools from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Parts Work, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), mindfulness-based emotional regulation, and Gestalt relational work—alongside guided dyads, somatic release, group integration, and transformational rituals.
Our facilitation team brings over 85 years of combined experience in trauma healing, intimacy coaching, and experiential facilitation, offering both grounded psychological frameworks and profound heart-opening practices. Every session is designed to help you not just understand your patterns—but embody new ways of relating rooted in trust, clarity, and love.
Meet the Facilitation Team
Dolphin Kasper
Dolphin is an educator, speaker, and creator of Relational Intelligence (RQ) with over 25 years of experience. Passionate about helping people communicate with clarity and connect with purpose, he empowers clients to transform relationships and lead with confidence.
Lead Facilitator
Francesca Gentile
Francesca is a clinical sexologist, counselor, and educator with over 20 years of experience. Passionate about healing through conscious sexuality, she empowers clients to reclaim desire, deepen intimacy, and embrace their sacred sensual selves.
Lead Facilitator
Philippe Lewis
Philippe is a skilled facilitator with over 20 years of experience in sensuality education and embodied learning. Passionate about creating safe, playful spaces for personal empowerment, he helps participants explore boundaries, desire, and authentic connection with confidence and care.
Lead Facilitator
🌿 Our Location: Pahoa on the Big Island of Hawaii
Our gathering takes place at an incredible retreat center on the lush southeast shore of the island, just outside the town of Pahoa. Surrounded by tropical forest, volcanic earth, and the sound of the ocean, this sacred land holds a rare energy of renewal and awakening.
Here, you’ll be invited to slow down, reconnect with the rhythms of nature, and remember the deeper intelligence that has always guided you home. From ocean breezes and star-filled nights to quiet moments in community, this is a space where transformation unfolds naturally—supported by the spirit of the island itself.
Sacred Lands with a Legacy of Transformation
We’ll gather at an extraordinary retreat centre on the lush southeast shore of the Big Island, near the vibrant town of Pāhoa—a place where nature, volcanic soil and ocean elements converge to support deep inner work and awakening.
Ocean,Volcanoes andc Soils and a History of Transformatino and Regeneration
Wander through lush rain-forest trails, pause by ancient volcanic rock and tide-pools, and reconnect with your natural rhythm in the wild, timeless land of Pāhoa.
Cozy, Cabins and Sacred Spaces
Simple yet powerful structures—lodges, meditation halls Spaces— create the perfect backdrop for personal depth and healing.
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying about this incredible experience..
— Crystal R.
This workshop appeared at just the perfect time in my life when it was just something I needed and it felt like a gift from the universe and it was everything that I'd hoped for and a lot more...
— Trish S
Retreat spaces like this give me the opportunity to go deep and get that felt sense that allows for true healing to take place in the body. And so that's what I was looking for. That's what I got.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Have questions about our services? You're in the right place!
Question 1: I really want to come, but I’m not sure I can afford it—are there payment plans or scholarships available?
Yes. We deeply believe in making this work accessible. We offer flexible payment plans that you can discuss with us. If this retreat is calling you, we’ll do everything we can to help you get here. Click one of the buttons on this page to speak with our team.
Question 2: I’ve never done something like this before—what if I’m not ready?
This retreat is designed to meet you exactly where you are. You don’t need to have years of experience with therapy or personal growth work—just a willingness to show up with honesty and an open heart. Whether you're just beginning your journey or have been walking this path for years, you'll be welcomed and supported every step of the way.
Question 3: Will I have to share everything in front of a group?
Absolutely not. You’ll never be asked to share more than you’re ready for. This is a “challenge by choice” environment where your voice, pace, and boundaries are fully respected. Many of the most powerful moments happen in small groups or guided partner practices—and you always have agency to participate in the way that’s right for you.
Question 4: What if I’m coming alone and don’t know anyone?
That’s how most people arrive—and by the end, you won’t feel alone. This retreat is intentionally designed to foster deep connection, safety, and community. From the opening circle to the closing ritual, you’ll be supported in building authentic relationships with others who are on the same courageous path toward love, healing, and wholeness.
Question 5: What’s the group size, and who else will be attending?
We cap the retreat at approximately 24 participants to keep the container intimate, personalized, and safe. Attendees come from all walks of life—coaches, creatives, therapists, professionals, parents, and seekers of all kinds—but they all share a common longing: to feel safe, seen, and empowered in love. You’ll be in good company.
Question 6: I’m in a relationship right now—will this retreat still be relevant to me?
Absolutely. This retreat is designed for both individuals and those in partnerships. Whether you're single, dating, married, or navigating complexity, the tools and insights you'll gain are immediately applicable to real-life relationships. Many couples attend together or separately to grow individually and strengthen their shared foundation.
IF YOU'RE READY... CHOOSE the RIGHT Retreat Package for You
Retreat Options
Super Early Bird Seat
Limited spots Avail!!
$1997
Shared room or dorm-style accommodations in the nourishing tropical retreat setting
Full access to all sessions, rituals, workshops, meals, and the retreat environment (Only 10 Seats Avail)
Integration workbook + access to post-retreat community Zoom calls
Lifetime Access to our Secure Network Attachment Community (with free access to workshops, online events, community calls and free coaching calls)
Regular Seat
LIMITED Spaces availABLE
$2397
Shared room or dorm-style accommodations in the serene forest retreat setting
Full access to all sessions, rituals, workshops, meals, and the retreat environment
Integration workbook + access to post-retreat community Zoom calls
Lifetime Access to our Secure Network Attachment Community (with free access to workshops, online events, community calls and free coaching calls)
VIP Upgrade
Private ACCOMMODATIONS
+ $600
Private accommodations + early check-in
Premium gift bundle + curated self-care tools
Everything from other tiers + two private 1:1 sessions with facilitator(s) and 3-month access to exclusive CHTL Community
Lifetime Access to our Secure Network Attachment Community (with free VIP access to workshops, online events, community calls and free coaching calls)
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